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Will using AI to run my coaching business make me lose the personal touch my clients pay for?

No, AI will not make you lose your personal touch. However, you do need to be using it in the right place. Your client is paying you for the personal touch in a handful of moments: the actual calls, the hard conversations, and the judgments only you can give. AI should never be the one touching those, or any of the other human elements of your business. However, it can be touching everything around that. That means the onboarding logistics, reminding you to send follow-up and drafting those messages, scheduling, note-taking, content drafts. When you have AI run the back office for you, you are able to show up for your client moments a lot more. Plus you’re a lot less distracted and you’re never behind. So when you use it this way, AI actually makes your business feel more personal and not less. When you finally give yourself the bandwidth to be present, you can really dive in with your client and make the experience much better as a whole.

Why does this fear feel so real right now?

In my personal opinion, I’m in a 50-50 split with AI right now. On the one end, there’s all the negative aspects of AI. All of the new data center issues and the amount of energy we’re consuming. And all of that is a real concern. Even the Pope himself came out and raised concerns about AI. Some of the content that AI is producing is honestly a little ridiculous in my opinion. Why are we spending so much money to be able to create AI “art” where we should be spending it elsewhere. On the opposite end in terms of business and small businesses specifically, AI is a huge game changer. Obviously I am diving into AI and trying to sell it to people to better their businesses so I’m a little biased. But in terms of what AI can do for small business there seems to be limitless potential here.

This fear comes from the fact that a lot of people don’t actually know what to do with the power of AI right now. So they’re stuck on the default of using ChatGPT to write LinkedIn posts and draft emails. This current use practice is what makes 65.5% of business owners fear that AI makes them look less personal. It’s the “I want to use AI, but I don’t want to come across as sounding like an AI chatbot”. And if we look at the other side, 85% of people now would rather speak to a real person than AI. So this gets me to my point here of yes, there is a genuine fear of losing your personal touch. Obviously you didn’t build your reputation based practice to sound like an AI chatbot. You built it to meet with your clients and make a genuine impact one-on-one. But due to that lack of knowledge of what’s possible with AI, you don’t realize that this fear is completely avoidable. Which gets me to what solutions can AI create that actually let you keep that personal touch.

What are your clients actually paying you for?

Your clients are paying you to be their coach. Might be a regular business coach, mindset coach, sales, whatever. They’re paying you to keep them on track and create a personalized plan that’s for them. But they’re also paying you because they’re sold on you. They’re sold on your personality and your interests. They’re sold on creating this relationship with you and working with you to make them better.

And all of these aspects show up in the personal elements of the coaching. They show up in the calls. They show up in the judgment that you explain to them. They show up in the hard conversations that you have to have to get them on the right track. And they especially show up in the working alliance you create with them. In fact, a study done by the Journal of Work Applied Management showed that clients rated human coaches higher on every factor, including working alliance, which is direct proof that the relationship is the key factor.

On the opposite end, here’s where you don’t show up. You can’t show up to the client when you’re doing the logistics in your business. When you’re doing scheduling, intake, follow-up notes in admin, the time that you could be spending with your clients is being directly stolen. So in terms of what’s making your business less personal, ask yourself how much admin are you doing versus how much time you’re spending with your clients. Then you’ll see that really the thread is admin rather than AI. The value that you are selling, and that’s irreplaceable, is you working with the client. And so anything that eats away at that time is the real threat.

So what exactly are you at risk of cheapening when you automate? Well, when you automate things that are directly related to client relationship, obviously that’s not going to be the best of plans. But when you start automating your admin, that’s where the real value of AI starts to show up. When the admin is handled for you automatically by AI, at low cost, that’s the only thing that’s being cheapened. But that then gives you time to start fully investing more into your clients.

Where should AI never touch the relationship?

So then, what becomes the line between keeping things 100% human and things that are automated? I said it in the last section, but here’s what it really means. You should never explicitly automate your coaching. So that means the actual calls and strategy conversations, the judgment calls that you are making, the empathy moments and the hard feedback, and the relationship defining first and last impressions. Obviously, being on call with them removes a lot of that AI aspect, but it really shows up in the messages that you’re sending them and the material that you’re giving them.

Clients will notice when every message feels machine-written, so you really need to protect the human-voiced touchpoints. All client communication should be written by you. You can use AI to pull up specific references that you talked about, but do not let AI write those messages for you. Rather, ask AI, hey, what were the main talking points we had in our last meeting to remind you of what you talked about.

In terms of creating and writing content, this also applies the same way. You can use AI to draft things, but it will show as an AI draft. You need to come in when it creates it and heavily apply your expertise to refine it. AI can be back in support in this aspect, but not a human substitute.

And this goes even beyond the actual clients as well. Avoid sending fully AI-written DMs, emails, copy, basically anything that another human will read. Anything written by AI on any platform coming from you will sound like AI, and that’s exactly where you lose your personal touch.

What should AI run instead — the invisible back office?

You should be pointing AI at your admin and backend. The whole point is to not let clients even see it. A good example would be onboarding logistics because there’s a lot to do to set up a client that can be automated. A whole pipeline of when they sign their contract, can start an automation chain of contract signed to invoice sent to first welcome email and getting their intake information. Once you have all the information, then it goes to prepping their documents, scheduling their first meeting, and setting up reminders. This is an important one because, 23% of client churn traces from poor onboarding, which much of that is logistics and not relationship based. So when you have an onboarding flow that is known to work you can start automating it and have that logistic issue go away when everything is always repeated the same way every time.

Another example could be lead follow-up. You’ve probably heard of a seven touch point follow-up sequence to have a better chance of landing clients. However, if you are manually tracking this, it takes up a lot of time that could be spent building relationships with your existing clients. AI can be used here to track them for you and tell you exactly when somebody needs a follow-up message.

Basically, when the back office runs itself, you show up to calls with your clients present and not behind. Imagine your onboarding flow fully automated for you. You get the notes from your discovery call automatically pulled for you and turned into a briefing document ready for your first call with your new client. It shows you the meeting notes and tells you what the biggest problem that they wanted to work on was. Then it gives you a draft of the road map of where you want to go with the client, where then you are able to apply your expertise and really polish it out for that client, making their experience that much better. And the whole thing was done behind the clients back, and they never even knew AI was a part of it. All they saw was a polished system, and a coach who was prepared and ready to build that relationship with them.

And then imagine an entire AI operating system in the background that helps you run all of the backend of your business. When you have the full backend of your business running for you, it allows you so much space to actually work better with your clients. Which, in the end, makes you more personal rather than less.

How do you keep it sounding like you and not a robot?

If you really need help with communication and content from AI, there are ways to keep it sounding like you. There are two different strategies here that you should be using to achieve this. Firstly, you can create strategic skills and context documents that AI follows when writing for you. This basically means telling the AI to follow a set of instructions when writing. And this set of instructions is telling it how you write and giving it context through documents it can read to reference. You want to feed it your actual words using voice notes past content transcripts, so the output is yours and not the model’s default.

The second strategy to apply is draft, refine, approve gates. You let AI create a draft for you to read over. You refine it and approve it, and so AI never sends something that doesn’t sound like you. You can combine the first strategy with the second one to create a draft that already is starting to sound like you in the first place.

However, you really want to be careful here. Communications and content are still considered relationships in my eyes. And if you’re not doing this very carefully, you won’t be even getting to the point of getting clients when you’re communicating with AI. The coaches losing clients to AI are the ones who pointed it at the relationship. The ones winning pointed it at everything else. Because with more automation, the human work moved up the value chain, Meaning that the relationship building is the most valuable aspect of a business, because the logistics are handled for you.

Closing

So no, AI won’t make you lose your personal touch that your clients pay for. But, that means you do need to be implementing AI the correct way. Use AI to eat away the time spent in admin and logistics. Create automations and workflows that make you look more prepared when you do show up for the client relationship building.

If you want to learn how to do this in your own business, or you’d rather have me build the whole AI operating system into your business for you, I can help with both sides of it. Either way, the first step is the same. Book a free AI Business Audit. We’ll map where your time is actually going, where AI should stay out of your client relationships, and what to build first.

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